By Kathy Gates
It’s been two years since my only sibling shot himself. June 2, 2010 is a day that has forever changed my life. I miss him every day! I’ve found out there is such a thing as a broken heart. I’ve gone through so many different emotions. I thought there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t getting over the loss of my brother. Then I found help – SOSL. Bonnie, like for so many of us, was the first person I talked to. I still remember how comforting her voice and words were to me. It was then that I knew only someone who had experienced a loss to suicide would know how I was feeling. This was the beginning of getting through my loss.
Next came my SOSL group meetings. At first I did not want to be a part of such a group. I didn’t think I could stand the grief of others along with mine. After a few meetings I realized I needed to be there. I still go to meetings for myself, but also for others that are just beginning their journey. I’m getting through my loss and I hope I can say something to help someone else.
I’ve found out helping others can be a big part of healing. A special thank you to some wonderful people that have helped me through my journey – Bonnie, Pam, and my group leaders Cheryl and Karen who have been with me and given me so much support. I’ve heard the saying, time is your friend. It’s taken me time to deal with the loss of my brother; I could not do it alone. Thanks again for SOSL.