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    Paul Gregory Villard Memorial Wall

    Paul Gregory Villard

    9.18.90 – 5.14.15

    Photo of young PaulPhoto of Paul
    Paul was a generous, caring and compassionate person. His passion for his friends, family and loved ones was transparent in his every move. Paul had the biggest heart and always put the needs of others before his own.

    Paul grew up in San Diego with a love of service and sports. He was active in various teams and offered much of his time and talents to the Santa Sophia Academy/Catholic Church and St. Augustine High School.

    Paul moved to Denver to attend Regis University and instantly fell in love with his wife, Amanda. He earned his degree in Finance and married Amanda in June 2014.

    It is with great regret that we say farewell to Paul in the flesh, but we are certain his vivacious spirit will always live on in our hearts and minds.

    We know that Paul would have wanted to help others and make meaning from this tragedy. We ask that, in lieu of flowers, any donations be made to SOSL and their efforts to support the San Diego community. SOSL hosts an annual community walk in Balboa Park in November. Please check this site at a later date for more information regarding our team and registration information.

    Paul was always and will forever be loved.

    Donate to Survivors of Suicide Loss in memory of Paul.

    To donate by  check, please make check out to SOSL and mail to:
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    P.O. Box 3297
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    42 thoughts on “Paul Gregory Villard Memorial Wall”

    1. Robin McKinney says:
      May 17, 2015 at 1:25 pm

      My heart is breaking for everyone who has known and loved Paul. He lived his life with passion and intensity, and a desire to always be more. I wish he could have known that he was already more than enough. I will hold all of you in my heart and prayers. With love, Robin

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    2. Leah Silliman says:
      May 17, 2015 at 1:49 pm

      Paul is my cousin and I am deeply saddened about his passing. I pray that he finds peace in heaven. To all of us who are family, loosing Paul is devastating and he will NEVER be forgotten and deeply missed. To his wife Amanda, please know we love you and care about you! We are praying for you as well as this is so hard. Truly no words can describe what your feeling, and in a way they make it harder.
      Please know that we are praying for you all and are holding you up in this time of deep sorrow and loss.

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    3. Judy Corcoran says:
      May 18, 2015 at 10:22 am

      I was so sorry to hear about Paul. Please know that the whole family is in my prayers.

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    4. The Siegfried's says:
      May 18, 2015 at 11:00 am

      We will miss having Paul next door. He was an amazing man, neighbor and friend. He was a thoughtful young man & Great sidewalk chalk artist as well! One of our favorite memories of Paul playing with our daughter. We are praying for you all and sending our love.

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    5. Maria & Eric Kareh says:
      May 18, 2015 at 1:11 pm

      Our hearts break at the news of Paul’s passing. Our most sincere condolences to Greg, Grace, John, Claire, Ryan and Amanda. We hold you all in our hearts and prayers.

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    6. Grace Garmo says:
      May 18, 2015 at 1:19 pm

      Since I heard about the passing of Paul and I’m in a daze, how can we lose just a young man helpful from a great family, grow up with our kids at Santa Sophia , always helpful, I remember he never said NO when I used to asked him for help ushering in Church when we were short handed. Paul you’ll be missed and Greg and dear Grace and the rest of the family , all I can say you’re in my prayers and may God rest his soul and he can find peace and comfort. Love you all.

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    7. Ben Fishburne says:
      May 18, 2015 at 3:19 pm

      We are so sorry to hear about Paul. He was always and kind and helpful young man. He and his family are in our prayers.

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    8. Katherine McCarthy says:
      May 19, 2015 at 8:40 am

      We were so saddened by the news of Paul’s passing. We will always have such wonderful memories of him. He taught Megan how to alter serve, and Riley loved playing ball with him at EDC. He was such a respectful, kind and gentle young man who always had a smile on his face, and our children always looked up to him. I hope he knows how many young lives he touched in his time at Santa Sophia. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family at such a difficult time.

      The McCarthy Family

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    9. Dominic Bloemendaal says:
      May 19, 2015 at 9:10 am

      Paul was a great mentor to me and helped me a lot to prepare for Saints. Aways had a big smile on his face whenever I saw him.We had a blast alter serving together on the weekends. My heart goes out to the family.

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    10. James Finders says:
      May 19, 2015 at 10:49 am

      Our thoughts and prayers are with the villard family at this time.

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    11. Diane Rivers says:
      May 19, 2015 at 11:25 am

      Our hearts are heavy with sadness. We remember Paul lovingly during the school and church years at Santa Sophia. Grace, Greg, John, Claire, Ryan and Amanda and families, we pray our Lord lifts you up in his grace and keeps you strong during this very difficult time. We are so, very sorry for your loss of Paul. With Love, Marc and Diane Rivers and Family

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    12. Bernadette and Veronica Padlo says:
      May 19, 2015 at 3:34 pm

      I am so sorry for your loss. Paul was a lovely and gracious young man and my prayers go out to each of you. I pray God will help heal your heart and help each of you to endure this horrible loss. No words can express how heartbroken we are for you.
      Sincere Sympathy, Bernadette and Veronica Padlo

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    13. Kelly Coyne says:
      May 19, 2015 at 5:43 pm

      “Our hearts are restless until we rest in You” – St. Augustine

      Rest peacefully Paul.

      With deepest sympathy and our Prayers,

      The Coyne Family

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    14. Kay Moore says:
      May 19, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      My heart is broken for Amanda in this horrible loss of her sweet husband. Their love was an inspiration to all who saw them together…My sincerest condolences to her family and his as I know that life will never be the same without him. We are all here for you always.

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    15. Annette Woolman-Bloemendaal says:
      May 19, 2015 at 6:11 pm

      I am sorry to hear about your loss. I have a heavy heart and pray that God will grace you with love and healing. Paul has touched all of our lives and we pray for his wife and family. God Bless

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    16. Jeff Thompson says:
      May 19, 2015 at 6:51 pm

      I had the pleasure of working with Paul at Schomp MINI. He was a great advisor to his customers and his work ethic was most impressive. I remember when his wife Amanda would stop by to see him at work and you could see how proud and in love he was with her.He has left a lasting impression with me and he will truly be missed by all lives he touched. I will miss his winning can do attitude and the friendship we had together. Until we meet again Paul may God hold you in the palm of his hand.

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    17. Gloria Goodman says:
      May 19, 2015 at 7:11 pm

      For Pauls’ wife and family, Please accept my most heartfelt sorrow. May our Blessed Mother, our Lord Jesus, and the Holy Spirit be with you all. I will have the whole family in prayer. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY.

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    18. Denise Crlenjak says:
      May 19, 2015 at 9:14 pm

      My heart just breaks for Paul’s family and especially for his wife, Amanda. I only knew Paul for a year as his 11th grade English teacher, but he had a kind and gentle soul with a lot of love to give. My only wish now is that the people who knew and loved him find peace as they try to move forward. My thoughts are with all of you.

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      • charmaine (villard) and bill gillota says:
        May 20, 2015 at 7:34 am

        I have struggled with words to write that convey my feelings about the loss of Paul under these circumstances and what to express to console the family. This is too big. I can only say I know the bond that his family had with him and I cannot imagine the pain everyone must feel in losing such a young man with his future in front of him.

        I did not know Paul, having only met him a few times. He was most supportive of my family during the recent loss of my sister, his second cousin, flying out for her memorial and later joining his family in a special tree planting for her. That said a lot to me about his character.

        I do know Greg and Grace less so. Greg was a phenomenal parent and very close to his children. He was there for Paul every step of the way. I am sure Grace was there as well and I saw her loving ways with them all. I saw his children and wives together and felt a true camaraderie amongst them.

        I pray for their emotional healing and know it will not be linear in its expression. They will need close family and friends to navigate through this. Paul is with God now and I know how hard it is not to be able to reach out to his physical form.

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    19. Wilma Ozias says:
      May 20, 2015 at 6:09 am

      We had the privilege of welcoming Paul into our family last year when he married our niece, Amanda. Their love for one another was inspiring, and Paul will always be part of our family and our lives. Our lives and all he knew are richer because of his kind and loving spirit. Love is eternal.
      Love and prayers to Amanda and all his family.
      Aunt Wilma

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    20. The Lubchencos says:
      May 20, 2015 at 6:27 am

      To Amanda and Paul’s family,

      We were shocked and saddened by the news of Paul’s death. We went back and looked at the various photos of Amanda and Paul and the one consistency was the apparent love between the two of you. There are no words to express how much our hearts hurt, but know that you and yours are in our thoughts and prayers.

      Be Well,

      Mark,Roberta,Cody and Sterling

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    21. Crystal and Trent Stevanak says:
      May 20, 2015 at 9:27 am

      I am so deeply upset about this. Paul was a wonderful person inside and out. He was a groomsmen in our wedding and a dear and close friend to many. I will never forget the person he was and always will be. We love you very much. Until the day we meet again you will always have a piece of our hearts!!!!! Amanda we love you so much and will be here whenever you need us. WE love you all very much !!!!!!

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    22. Jill McCaffrey says:
      May 20, 2015 at 10:26 am

      I am so sad. I had almost every business class with Paul, and he never EVER let me copy his homework!! It was because of him that I learned anything at Regis. His smile and laughter lit up the campus and his amazing love for beautiful Amanda made every girl envious. Whether it was in the gym or at the salad bar in the cafeteria, Paul always came up to me and said Hi and asked how I was doing. I even told him once “You know, I’m not an RA. You don’t have to suck up to me.” Ha! But he wasn’t. He was just always friendly and he made me a better person.
      Amanda, my heart is breaking for you. You and Paul’s relationship was such an inspiration and joy to watch unfold. I will feel truly lucky if I ever find a love half as strong.

      You and your family are in all my thoughts. Sending so much love your way.

      -Jill

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    23. Matthew Brown says:
      May 20, 2015 at 10:46 am

      To those who may see this including Paul’s family, wife, and loved ones, I am deeply sorry for your loss. Through my 4 years at St. Augustine HS, I had the privilege and honor to be a friend of Paul’s. Though these past few years we were not close, I always enjoyed seeing the success that Paul was having in life, and will always remember Paul for his smile and kind heart. As a brother of Paul, not by blood but by the bond sealed by our time at St. Augustine, I offer any support to his family and friends. You are not alone in this tough time. I love you, Paul. We’ll meet again soon, my friend.

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    24. Tyler Finders says:
      May 22, 2015 at 5:33 am

      Our hearts and prayers go out to the Villard family. Only knowing Paul for a short time I can see that he was extremely loved by many. Paul certainly displayed that Charismatic Villard charm that runs deep through his family. He was such a kind likeable guy, he will be missed dearly.

      So sorry for your loss Grace, Greg, Claire, John, Ryan and Amanda.
      Tyler

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    25. Frances and David Rhinesmith says:
      May 22, 2015 at 4:57 pm

      Our thoughts and prayers go out to Grace and her family. Please remember you are not alone, we are always here for you.

      With deepest sympathy,
      David and Frances Rhinesmith

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    26. Tom and Sandi Stevanak says:
      May 23, 2015 at 1:43 pm

      Our hearts are breaking over the loss of Paul. He was a wonderful friend to our son Trent. Every time we saw him, he was smiling. We will continue to lift up Amanda and Paul’s family in prayer. May God grant you comfort during this very difficult time.

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    27. Marylou Trepkowski says:
      May 23, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      In loving memory of my cousin Paul Villard.

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    28. Nini Frank says:
      May 23, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      Paul, you are still with me. Always will be, but I will miss your smile and your laugh. My heart aches for Amanda, and for Grace. If there was any way I could change any of this, you know I would. Sending love to you both.

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    29. Beth says:
      May 25, 2015 at 7:25 am

      Dear Amanda, I only knew Paul for 2 1/2 hours on our flight from Denver to San Diego. The only time we stopped talking was to give our drink order to the attendant. I remember him sharing about you and his love for you. Amanda at that time you were going thru nursing school and Paul was going to college. Paul shared about how much he wanted to marry you but he wanted everything to be just right before he asked you. His love for you and life was so exciting. His voice exploded with awe and wonder about your future together and his love for family and friends. By the end of the trip we did not say good-bye yet because Amanda you were waiting at the baggage area and Paul wanted me to meet you. Amanda when I met you and saw Paul looking at you as he introduced me to you, beauty filled the eyes of two people who God was placing together. Paul and I had already shared that we would connect on FB and I have followed you both since then. In those couple hours I knew and enjoyed being with Paul, he spoke of his Mother and Father as well. I thought of how proud they should be to have raised a wonderful man. A man after God’s heart, so caring and kind. I just happened on this news of your passing Paul. I will miss seeing you and Amanda on FB and your great pictures you shared. Jesus has a wonderful man with Him, take care of each other and save room for all of us that love and miss you. You will be missed Paul. Beth, your Denver – San Diego Pal 🙂

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    30. Mary Bowerman says:
      June 10, 2015 at 12:26 am

      To All of the Villards, Grace, Claire and Gavin,
      My heart is breaking for you all, what a tragedy to have in your life. His smile is beautiful and it’s so hard to understand his suffering.
      Dear Heavenly Father, Only You can know this struggle that we as mortals face on this earth, please take care of your precious boy, husband, son, brother, brother in law, friend as he sits at your feet. We all know that at the end of our road in life it is You who sits on the throne and we will all sit at your feet by your love, understanding, compassion, and grace. Amen Thank you for this beautiful life.
      Mary Bowerman

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    31. Giovanna DeSanti-Medina says:
      June 10, 2015 at 5:22 pm

      My sincere condolences and prayers go out to the Villard family. I pray that the Holy Spirit will console each of you during this time and heal your hearts. It’s very hard to imagine…but earth has no sorrow that heaven can’t heal…in God’s perfect time. And you will, as a family, come through this. May the Lord pour his mercy on you. I ask that Our Blessed Mother comfort you so you face each day knowing that Paul is in now their warm, tender embrace.

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    32. Doug and Kathleen Rosenkoetter says:
      June 11, 2015 at 10:57 am

      Ephesians 4:2
      Be completely humble and gentle; be patient bearing with one another in love.
      Must have been written about Paul, the most kind and gentle soul, always the first to give and humble at any compliment or reciprocation. Our hearts are so very heavy with grief. Grace and Greg, John, Claire, Ryan and family and most of all his lovely wife Amanda, you are all in our thoughts and prayers, as his Paul.

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    33. Justine Mumma says:
      June 11, 2015 at 11:21 am

      In loving memory of Paul Villard. Our deepest condolences to the whole Villard family.
      Sending lots of love,
      Justine and Aleksey

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    34. Jeanine Woods says:
      June 14, 2015 at 8:49 am

      To the Villard Family,
      I only knew Paul when he was a child when your family lived in our Rancho San Diego neighborhood. I am deeply saddened to hear of his tragic passing. My heart breaks for you and I send my deepest condolences to you. During this darkest hour, may God provide you some peace in the knowledge that Paul is no longer suffering and is in the arms of Jesus.

      You are in my prayers,
      Jeanine

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    35. Eugene, Adena & Mason Boxer-Capitano says:
      June 15, 2015 at 1:05 pm

      Do not judge a song by its duration, 
Nor by the number of its notes

      Judge it by the richness of its contents

      Sometimes those unfinished are among the most poignant!
      Do not judge a song by its duration, 
Nor by the number of its notes

      Judge it by the way it touches and lifts the soul

      Sometimes those unfinished are among the most beautiful!
      And when something has enriched your life,
      
And when its melody lingers on in your heart
      
Is it unfinished?
 Or is it endless?
      Author Unknown

      Grace, Greg, John, Claire and Ryan….We are remembering with you the life of your precious son and brother, Paul.

      Adena, Eugene and Mason

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    36. Cherie McColley says:
      June 15, 2015 at 3:24 pm

      Dearest Greg and Villard Family,

      My thoughts and prayers are with you at this painful time. I did not know Paul, however, if he was like his father he indeed was a wonderful person.
      Love, Cherie

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    37. Silvia Kosmicki says:
      June 17, 2015 at 7:21 am

      I didn’t know your son but as a Saints mom my heart breaks and I cry with you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort in God’s love and peace. My deepest condolences.

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    38. Lisa Simpkins says:
      June 17, 2015 at 8:41 pm

      Dear Villard family,
      My heart breaks for you as you endure the loss of your son and husband. Know that this mother of a Saintsman (2014), is praying for you. May the Saints above intercede in my prayers and those of others, to comfort you abundantly in your time of need.
      God Bless,
      Lisa Simpkins

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    39. Kristina Sipe says:
      June 19, 2015 at 7:19 pm

      Paul’s life touched so many lives. His joyful smile was seen in every single photo shared at his memorial. It is a testament to his life to have seen so many of his classmates, teachers, friends, and family wishing to share one more moment with him. My prayers will continue to be with Paul, Amanda, and their families as they continue on their journeys.

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    40. Karen Linarelli says:
      June 29, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      I am so sorry to hear of Paul’s death. He was a classmate of my son Vince linarelli (2009) at St. Augustine High School. Please know that all of you have been in my thoughts and prayers.
      With deep sympathy,
      Karen Linarelli

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    41. Debbie Malloy says:
      August 10, 2015 at 5:13 pm

      My son was also a classmate of Paul’s at Saint Augustine High School. No one can imagine all that his loved ones must be experiencing. We will keep his soul and you in our prayers.

      Reply

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